Speaking to your children about sex – It doesn’t have to be hard

I received the “The Modern Mom’s Guide to the Birds + The Bees Talk!” DVD to check out and review. Now, I must mention that I have six children, and my oldest child is an 11 year old boy. He is just starting to get interested in girls, but I have been very open and honest with him from day 1 about sexual health. I have always been of the mindset that if you are not comfy talking to your kids about sex, then they will not be comfy asking you questions. One of the first questions most parents get is “Where do babies come from?” and there are SO many answers that parents give their children. I told my son the truth. “Babies come from a part of a woman’s belly called the womb. It starts out as an itty bity egg, and needs a sperm to become a baby. Sperm come from a man’s penis. Once the sperm and the egg come together a baby starts growing and in a little less than a year, a new baby is born. Women push the baby out through their vagina and this is why boys and girls have different body parts.” Short, sweet and to the point, and he was fine with that answer. Other questions came up over the next few years and I answered them the same way, with honesty. Then school started and he came to me with a question that I was not prepared for. “What does gay mean?” See what I mean? Most kids in the 3rd grade would not be asking their parents this question, but because I had been honest and open up to this point, my son felt comfortable coming to me with it. I took a deep breath and asked him where he had heard the term. Obviously, it was in school, with other kids calling eachother “Gay” used as a slang for stupid. This upset me, since I am a bi-sexual individual, and using the word gay in a derogatory way, such as that is just not cool! So I started my speech; “Gay is a word that means someone who likes people of the same gender, boys who want to date boys and girls who want to date girls. The way your friends are using this word is incorrect and insulting. For a long time, people have used the word to mean stupid, but just because someone likes to date their own gender, does not make them stupid, it makes them gay, or homosexual.”

Not all parents are able to be open about sexuality with their children, which is why I am very happy that this DVD was made. Do you want your kids to have the same sex education you did? Didn’t think so. Whether your child is 2 or 12, you’ll eventually need to talk to them about the birds and the bees! Starting sooner is better – it’s easier for you and for them.

Amy’s humorous and engaging style isn’t religious or political – values are your department. Parents from all walks of life will get what they need to have sex talks that rock!

I was 15 years old and 3 months pregnant with my son when my mother first gave me the “talk”. She didn’t know I was pregnant yet, and the talk was “Don’t have sex until you are married.” That was it. Menstruation? HELL NO! I heard nothing of it! I was 13 when I got my period for the first time and I thought I was dying! I don’t want that sort of relationship with my children, I want them to feel like they can come to me with any problems or questions they may have.

Personally, I didn’t find to much info in this DVD that I didn’t already know, since I decided on complete honestly with my children from the moment I found out that I was going to be a mother. However, if you are interested in the open and honest relationship with your child(ren), and don’t know how to start, please check out this DVD, it will help you.

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